Some of them asked me why?, there were also those who said that I was daring enough to venture into an unknown horizon; a 180 degree different from my trained profession and there were also people who bluntly said I was not thinking straight, it was a waste of time.

There were times after that especially during difficult times that I too wondered whether what they said was true and whether I had made the right decision.

Until today, there are still people who are trying to talk me out of pursing my dream and even said that my dream is a worthless dream.  They said that my dream is not going to bring a lot of money or my dream is not going to make me a happy person or my dream is not going anywhere or what I am doing is not the best for me and they actually know what best for me :-(

Well, I called these people a dream killer.  They don’t actually know what they are talking about or they are a failure because they may once had a dream before and on their first or second attempts failed and after that they never tried again.  And the worst this is that they believe that if they failed in their first and second attempts, everybody else who has dreams will fail too.  What make things worst are that they suddenly thought that they are the expert on dreams and they know what best for everybody else.

My advice to you is that just ignore what they said and even better try to spend time or associate with them less.  Because if keeping spending your time with them, one day you may start to believe what they said, begin to think that your dream is a worthless dream and forget about it.

You see, the person who knows you best, the person who knows your capabilities and the person who knows what best for you beside Allah, is yourself.  Some people who are very close to you like your parents may understand your capabilities by the only person who knows you best is yourself

And if you believe that you can achieve your dream, you will be able to achieve it.  Of course it would be best to have the people around you especially your love ones to believe in your dream too.  It will help a lot and make things easier for you.

I am not saying that when you have a dream, you believe it and it would come easily to you.  I am saying that if you believe in yourself and your love ones; people around you believe it too, things would be easier.

Because when you have a dream, a goal; there is no straight road to achieve it.  There will always be roadblocks, challenges, detour, hurdles, many disappointments and failures before you can be successfully achieve your dream.  This is where the believes and supports of your love ones are very important.  These believes and supports can keep you moving and help you up when you fall.

However the believes and supports of your love ones would not be enough unless you believe in yourself and take actions to move towards your dream.

That’s why one of my favourite quotes is by Napoleon Hill “Whatever the mind conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

I admit that sometimes your dream and what you believe in may not be the best for you but if you never try, take action to achieve it; you will never know whether it is the best for you or not.  In the end if you never try, you will never know and keep wondering whether your dream is what best for you.  Like Publilius Syrus said, “No one knows what he can do until he tries.”

So if someone comes to you and said that your dream is worthless and they know what best for you, assess their statement, weigh what they said, take the good advises and throw away the rest and move on because in the end it is your life, you are the one who knows what best for you.

Look at history for example Alexandra Graham Bell, Thomas Edison or even Albert Eistein; no one believed them and some may think that they were wasting their time.  However because of their believe in their dreams, their persistence and determination and also the actions that they had taken, they changed the world. 

So believe in your dreams, be what you want to be not what others what you to be; things that will give you energy to move forward and you will be a happy person until the end of your life. 

Logan Pearsall Smith said, “There are two things to aim in life: first, to get what you want and after that to enjoy it.”

See you next time

All through my life, I have been doing things in this sequence. 

Well, let’s not talk to far into my childhood because that might bores you.  Let’s just talk about the things that I did from few years back…

When I first got inspired on writing a book, I just said to myself, “Hey! I want to write a book.  I got the data and information that I think is very valuable and I want to share it with others.”  So I started writing.  At that time, all I could think about was putting my book on the shelf of a bookstore.  Thinking back on that, I should have been thinking “Hey! I want to write a best selling book.”  Anyway, I have no regrets because my first book opens up a lot of new opportunities that I never thought of doing before.

Ok… Back to my story… When I finished writing my book, only then I thought of how to get my book printed and out on the bookshelf.  So I thought of finding a publisher.  It was not an easy thing to do.  It took a lot of determination and persistence from a person who didn’t have a slightest idea about publishing.  I had been rejected by so many publisher that in the end I almost got discourage.  During this time I took things one step at a time.  What I did was, I kept telling myself, “One more publisher today.  If I didn’t get this one, I’ll stop.”  But alhamdulillah, I never stopped. Until finally on on fine morning I got a reply from the publisher.

And that was the beginning of my first book, ”Tulisan Cerminan Personaliti Diri”

My First book

It may not be a world best selling book yet but I am very proud of it.  My first attempt I am still learning from this experience and I realise that I could do better.  And I am in the midst of writing a new book much better than this

Like I said earlier, by writing this book, it opens up a lot of new opportunities for me.  Before this I never thought of becoming a coach that shares information with other people through seminars, programs and talks.  I was actually terrified of talking in front of people especially big groups of people

However I learned and still am learning.  And now I am doing things that I never thought I would love.  One of it is sharing knowledge and value add to others through my programs, seminars and talks

Knowledge Sharing with Master Students in UiTM

Now I just love doing this knowledge sharing events

Though I have to admit I still have stage frights at the beginning of each programs but in the end these are the things that give me energy and drive to move forward.

Finally, I found the reason why to I was put on this earth; to share information and value add to others.

I still have a lot of things to share about Ready, Fire, Aims but I think we will continue that in my next post.

But one thing you have to remember, if you know you are doing the right thing then just do it.  A lot of people know that they are ready but keep aiming to ensure that they get the right target and in the end they never actually fire.  If you never fire you will never know whether your target is right or not and you will never have a chance to correct your aim.

See you next time.

Take care.

Khadijah

How many books you read in a day? In a week? In a month? In a year?

Do you remember the book or books that inspire you?

Do you remember the book that start to make you re-think about your purpose in life and change your life forever? 

I still remember mine…

Since I was little I liked to read books.  I used to read mystery books, horror books, romance novels and lots of other books.  But I never really read any inspiring or motivational books.

I never really remember how it began but I will always remember the day I picked up the book that give me the inspiration, re-think about my life, realized my true purpose and change my life forever; a 180 degree change. 

And since then, there are always books that inspire and motivate me to move forward in life. 

Sometimes… When I feel down, discourage and de-motivate; I can just pick a book and there are always inspiring words or advises that encourage and motivate me to move forward and face the challenge.  It is like a coach or a mentor advising me what to do.

Weird isn’t it…  But it is a good weird

You see, when you want to be successful in whatever you do, you need to learn.

Learn from everything.  Learn from your own life experience, other people life experience such even from your parents, read books, attend trainings, find coaches or mentors and even observe everything around you. 

There will always things that can help you become a better person

Just open your mind and always be ready to learn. 

For some people when something bad happened to them, they just shut their eyes and miss the valuable lesson.  But not you because you know that most of the time challenges and failures are the most valuable things that teach you valuable lessons and bring you a step closer towards your dreams.

Remember this, there will always be lessons in everything that happens to you whether it is good or bad.  The important thing is that how you look at these lessons and how you use it.

If you think that life experiences and reading good books are not enough to help you achieve your dreams then find a coach or a mentor.    

Me and my coach

Coaches and mentors can also be your eyes opener and help you achieve your dreams.

But the most important thing of all, YOU must take the action.

Ok… See you next time.

Talk to you soon

How are you today?  Hope you are doing fine and happy.

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to work by the seaside – just a few feet away from where I was sitting though I didn’t have the opportunity to swim due to chemical bla…bla..bla… but I managed to appreciate the beauty of God creation.

I was sitting directly in front of a window that looked out to the open sea.  It was one of a spectacular view sought of like watching the blue ocean from a plasma tv  

Unfortunately I didn’t bring my camera or else you would be able to view the same spectacular view that I saw today instead of just listening to my description and try to imagine it in you head.

The sea was beautifully blue and green and everything was so calm.  There was a breeze of wind and the sky was perfectly blue.

That was when I started thinking about why some people put-off starting their own business whether it is online or offline though deep down in their heart they want their own business.  The most important thing that makes them give-up even before they start.

Selecting the right niche…

Don’t give me that look :-0

You know that is one of the reason why you got stuck isn’t it?

It may seems simple but truthfully it can be difficult. 

Selecting the right niche is as important as planning your business when you want to start your business.

I discussed this in great length in my e-Book 15 Secrets of Making Money with Positive Personality Revealed.

When you start thinking of building your own business, you will also start to think about what you should sell? 

For some people this is an easy part because they already know what they want but for some it is not as easy.

For those who feel that it is not as easy, here are some guidelines for you:

1.  Select something that you are very interested and passionate about.  Why???

Because when you are going into a business, this is not for one or todays.  It is going to be for a very long time; maybe your lifetime.  So when you are really interested and passionate about it, you will stand by it in no matter what the circumstances.

Hey! It is not going to always be easy

For example you are very interested and passionate about baking cakes.  So even when in the beginning nobody is buying your cakes, you are still interested and passionate about it.  You will not give-up or discourage in the process of achieving your dreams.

2.  Select ‘The Niche’

It may not be enough to select just the niche that you are interested and passionate about but also things that people want at the right time. 

For example you are interested and passionate about baking biscuits but at that time nobody is interested about biscuits.  So my suggestion is to hold on to that thought and find something else to sell first. At the same time search the market to find out where and when people will be interested i.e. during specific occasioon etc.

Like I said earlier, if you are interested and passionate about your product you will  find a way to make it work in no matter what circumstances and conditions.

I elaborated in great length about niches in my e-Book.

So go to http://www.makemoneywithpersonality.com to learn more about selecting niches. 

There is also 7 days free course for you there that will help you to start your business

So I think that’s it for today.

For more information, read my 15 Secrets of Making Money with Positive Personality Revealed.

See you soon

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

If you are not ok, you would not be reading my post now.  So I know that you are doing great.

Today is not going to be a long one as I am in the middle of preparing for the training that I am going to do for government’s officer on Thursday. 

Since I really want to talk to you so I am writing today and I have to make today a quick one.

Last week I did told you about a workshop that I am organising on 27th June 2009. 

Well, the workshop is still on but to a later date.  I am going to organise it on 1st August 2009 instead.  I am still going to organise it in Johor Bahru though.

The reasons that I am changing the date are:

1.  Due to short notice therefore a lot of people who want to come are not able to make it.

2. I want it to give the best information to you so that you could use it to improve your life and your children’s life, over and over again.  Therefore I need more time to ensure that everything well prepared.

The benefits that you are going to get from this workshop.

1.  You will learn a new skill that not many people know about.  The skill of determining personalities from the handwriting and the skill of grapho-therapy.  You can use these skills through-out your entire life.

2. You will see all the habits that you have that you might not realise having.  And then using this knowledge to improve and develop yourself further.  It would be easier to improve and develop something that you know rather than something that you don’t.

3. You will see with your own eyes the positive and successful habits of the successful people such as Thomas Edison through their handwriting, habits that made them successful.  And when you have this knowledge and understanding, you could implement these habits into your handwriting and your children’s handwriting that will lead you and your family to a more successful life.

4. I will personally show the basic strokes that represent the habits or personalities (positive and negative)and then teach you to write in the correct way, the positive way.  Later when you could go home, you can teach your children to write in the correct way.

5. Wouldn’t you want your children to have high self-esteem, high self-confidence, diplomatic, determine, persistence, always completing an assignment on time, honest and all the successful traits that successful people have? 

Yes?

I am going to teach you these in this workshop.

6. I will also be teaching you about understanding your children thinking process i.e. whether your children need to understand what they are learning step-by-step, through demostration or they have a very fast thinking pattern.  When you understand this you can develop the best way to teach your children so that they could use their thinking process in the best possible way.

I could talk on and on about the benefits that you will get from this workshop.

So I am inviting you to go to the workshop “Teaching Your Children to Write Like The Successful People” and experience the benefits yourself .

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So go there now and register.  The seats are limited therefore once all the seats are occupied I am going to close the offer even before the deadline date.

You will regret it if you miss this.

So register NOW!  Invest towards the your growth and your children growth.

“To be successful, you must think and act like the successful people.”  And I am giving you the chance to do just that.

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See you there.

You partner towards your success,

Khadijah

At the moment I already learn how to get domain and website hosting, also how to create blog page and to post blogs like this one.  So far it has been interesting, very informative, a lot of fun and of course a lot of questions.

Sometimes I am confuse though whether the question should be technical or should it be marketing. It is important that I am able to differentiate it as I need to know to whom I should forward my inquiries.  Sometimes I sent the inquiries to the wrong person, well I guess I am still learning; I am still taking baby steps one day at a time.  Overall both John and Daniel have been very helpful and I just hope that they will be able to stand my many more questions in the future. Till next time…

Last year I subscribe to John Thornhill newsletter and based from my occasional reading, he is good.  Therefore when I saw that he is offering the coaching program, I know I have to do this.  At first I am quite reluctant, well you know why… but I kept thinking about it.  Then finally when I made the decision to join the program I saw that it already sold out.  I felt devastated… I was thinking of writing to John asking to give one chance to me; that was went I received another email and from the link saw that there were still places for the coaching program.  This time I didn’t think twice, I immediately grab the chance and did not looked back anymore.  Hope this program will help me to achieve my goal.  Till next time….