Hi!  How are you today? Hope all of you are doing great

How’s your mother’s day celebration?  Hope that all of you did celebrate you mom’s on Sunday.  Some of you may not have a mom anymore but you can still celebrate mother’s day by reciting prayers for them. That would be one way of celebrating our moms the most beautiful and wonderful creations in this world.

All the men and women in this world would definitely have a mother and most women in this world would have the opportunity to be a mother. 

Today I am not going to talk about all mothers in whole world.  Today I am going to specifically talk about one mother, my mom.

My Mom

One thing about my mom is that she is always concern about her children and her grandchildren.  She always is concern when the grandchildren is not studying, not eating right or even not having enough sleep .  She is the one who would be most worried when the grandchildren are sick.  I think my nieces and nephew are more closer to my mom than their own mother.

Though my mom does not have the highest education or graduated from university, she always emphasize on us the important of education whether it is a formal or informal education.  She always said that there is something that we can learn from the whole situations.  I learnt a lot of things from my mom.  One important thing I learnt and made me the person I am today is the courage to follow my dreams.  When I was down and feeling discouraged, she would always said that this is just a challenge for me to grow, if I let it go now I would never find out who am I and what I am capable of.  When thing happened, it happened for a reason.  It may be due to we did the wrong thing or we are not doing the thing right.  So we must access ourselves and make a step forward.

Wise words from someone who never had a high formal education but a lot of experience in life.

With her way of thinking, I think my mom can effectively lead a company to success.

To me my mom is the most wonderful and the greatest mom in the whole world.  She is also my best friend.  We had gone through the happiest and saddest times together.

The saddest time we experienced together was when my dad passed away in the end of 2010.  I could see the pain in her eyes, departing from the love of her life.  However she is a strong woman, she could still managed things to ensure that the funeral went smoothly.

I think mother’s day should not be celebrated once a year.  It should be celebrated everyday, counting every moment that our mothers took care of us.

There was a saying that said “A mother could take care of 10 of her children, understand each of their behaviours, likes and dislikes.  But 10 children are not able to take care of one mother, to honour her and to love her.”

Happy mother’s day, mom.  You are everything to me

Until next time…

Hope you all are doing great today.

As for me, I am feeling really great

Just celebrated my birthday this month a day to remember.

Received a bouquet of roses too

Roses for my birthday

 Anyway… That is not what I want to talk about today.

Remember in February I wrote a post about Thomas Edison…  Well, I received some comments from a very good friend of mine.

He said that what I wrote there was not me… He said that normally when I wrote something there was an umph, something that felt like it was from me, from my heart, something unique.  But in that post it was like somebody else was writing instead of me…  

And when I read back what I wrote, I realised that he was right.  It was like I was writing for the sake of writing not truly something from my heart.  It was truly not me.  I was trying to copy someone else styles of writing and it didn’t reflect me at all

It made me realised that you can never be somebody else in whatever you do.  Not even in writing.

When you do something it must come fully from your heart, not half-hearted, not quarter hearted.  It must be in full; so that the result will be satisfying to you and everyone else.  Only then it will reflect who you are.

When you do something with your whole heart, you will give your best effort, your best idea, the best of you to make it work.  And when what you are working for works, the satisfaction can never be described. 

Even if it doesn’t work, you will still feel satisfy as you already put your very best in it.  There would not be any “If only I do this better”, “If only I think of this differently”, “If only this and that…..”  There will be no if only…  You will only think, “Ok… I have done my best but it doesn’t work so I better take the next step.” 

No brooding, no thinking of what if….   Because if you carry on to brood, you would never achieve anything and it is also not very good for your heart.

Talking about the heart do you know that helping others is good for your heart physically and spiritually .  I can guarantee that when you help others, do something for others, the feeling of satisfaction can never be replace by anything else.  But wanting to help others must come from the heart; remember that you want to help others because you want to help them not because you want to get praises or something in return or rewards or seeing your face in the newspapers. 

You want to help others because you want to see them develop and become a better people, you want to see the smiles in their faces and you want to see them helping others in return.  If that what you have in mind then helping others will actual helps you instead.  It will help you to become a better person instead and it would be better for your heart too because you are feeling happy and satisfy. 

So you see helping others will help you as a whole, making you a better person physically, mentally and physically

Therefore whatever you want to do, do it from your heart.  The result will be able to warm your heart, make you satisfy and it would also be your great gift to others.

And I would also like to thank my friend for making me realise that.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

See you all next time.

Take care…

In my opinion, this is really true.  In my opinion life is not always full of rainbows. sunshine, colours and musics.  Most of the times it is also fills with rain, thunderstorm, black and white and even sutnami

Well, the truth is that all the roadblocks, hurdles and challenges are how we can grow.  Because all the challenges, roadblocks and hurdles are truthfully our opportunities to learn and grow.  It is the opportunity to become what we want to be.  If everything is so great in our life then we will never learn, never able to grow and most probably forget our roots, where we came from.

Let me share with you a story about  a little boy who overcome all the challenges, hurdles and roadblocks and became a great man.  At the age of 7, his teacher always pointed out about his unusually broad forehead and saying that his head was considerably larger than average.  His teacher believed that this hyperactive youngster had a brain that was “addled” or scrambled.

He also had a poor hearing and because of the negative treatments he received from his teacher, his mother who believed that her son was intelligent withdrew him from school.  Due to this he only had 3 months of formal education.

However he loved reading and he loved asking questions.  He was exposed to history and english literature and was very interested in Shakespear’s plays that he briefly considered himself to become an actor.  However because of his high-pitched voice and extreme shyness in front of audiences he soon gave up his idea.

His parents especially his mother believed in his ability when nobody else did.  They introduced him to the use of library to appease his voracious appetite to knowledge.  He became interested in Science and very into Newton’s theory.

As he grew up, he developed a strong sense of perseverance, readily expending whatever amount of perspiration needed to overcome challenges. 

He was once being struck by a train conductor due to an accident that caused a baggage car to catch a fire.  This may had add to the hearing loss that he already inherited and from later from a scarlet fever.  By the time he was 14 years old, it  was  virtually impossible for him to acquire knowledge in a typical educational setting. Amazingly,  however, he never seemed to fret a whole lot over the matter. Naturally inclined towards accepting his fate in life – and promptly  adapting to whatever he was convinced was out of his control -he always reacted by committing  himself to compensating via  alternative methods….

ltimately, he  became totally deaf in his left ear, and approximately 80% deaf in his right ear.

To make his story short, he encountered a lot of disappointments, rejections and failures, challenges and roadblocks.  He even been in deeply debt and almost being fired from his job.

But he never gave up.  He was Thomas Edison who invented the first commercially practical incandescent electric light bulb.

You can read more about him in his biography and books about his life and inventions.

What I am trying to say and even to remind myself is that to become successful is not easy.  Challenges, roadblocks and hurdles are part of life and makes path towards success much interesting

They are there to make sure that we never forget our roots when we are at the top.

Hope to see you soon, till next time

Take care.  

Some of them asked me why?, there were also those who said that I was daring enough to venture into an unknown horizon; a 180 degree different from my trained profession and there were also people who bluntly said I was not thinking straight, it was a waste of time.

There were times after that especially during difficult times that I too wondered whether what they said was true and whether I had made the right decision.

Until today, there are still people who are trying to talk me out of pursing my dream and even said that my dream is a worthless dream.  They said that my dream is not going to bring a lot of money or my dream is not going to make me a happy person or my dream is not going anywhere or what I am doing is not the best for me and they actually know what best for me :-(

Well, I called these people a dream killer.  They don’t actually know what they are talking about or they are a failure because they may once had a dream before and on their first or second attempts failed and after that they never tried again.  And the worst this is that they believe that if they failed in their first and second attempts, everybody else who has dreams will fail too.  What make things worst are that they suddenly thought that they are the expert on dreams and they know what best for everybody else.

My advice to you is that just ignore what they said and even better try to spend time or associate with them less.  Because if keeping spending your time with them, one day you may start to believe what they said, begin to think that your dream is a worthless dream and forget about it.

You see, the person who knows you best, the person who knows your capabilities and the person who knows what best for you beside Allah, is yourself.  Some people who are very close to you like your parents may understand your capabilities by the only person who knows you best is yourself

And if you believe that you can achieve your dream, you will be able to achieve it.  Of course it would be best to have the people around you especially your love ones to believe in your dream too.  It will help a lot and make things easier for you.

I am not saying that when you have a dream, you believe it and it would come easily to you.  I am saying that if you believe in yourself and your love ones; people around you believe it too, things would be easier.

Because when you have a dream, a goal; there is no straight road to achieve it.  There will always be roadblocks, challenges, detour, hurdles, many disappointments and failures before you can be successfully achieve your dream.  This is where the believes and supports of your love ones are very important.  These believes and supports can keep you moving and help you up when you fall.

However the believes and supports of your love ones would not be enough unless you believe in yourself and take actions to move towards your dream.

That’s why one of my favourite quotes is by Napoleon Hill “Whatever the mind conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

I admit that sometimes your dream and what you believe in may not be the best for you but if you never try, take action to achieve it; you will never know whether it is the best for you or not.  In the end if you never try, you will never know and keep wondering whether your dream is what best for you.  Like Publilius Syrus said, “No one knows what he can do until he tries.”

So if someone comes to you and said that your dream is worthless and they know what best for you, assess their statement, weigh what they said, take the good advises and throw away the rest and move on because in the end it is your life, you are the one who knows what best for you.

Look at history for example Alexandra Graham Bell, Thomas Edison or even Albert Eistein; no one believed them and some may think that they were wasting their time.  However because of their believe in their dreams, their persistence and determination and also the actions that they had taken, they changed the world. 

So believe in your dreams, be what you want to be not what others what you to be; things that will give you energy to move forward and you will be a happy person until the end of your life. 

Logan Pearsall Smith said, “There are two things to aim in life: first, to get what you want and after that to enjoy it.”

See you next time

All through my life, I have been doing things in this sequence. 

Well, let’s not talk to far into my childhood because that might bores you.  Let’s just talk about the things that I did from few years back…

When I first got inspired on writing a book, I just said to myself, “Hey! I want to write a book.  I got the data and information that I think is very valuable and I want to share it with others.”  So I started writing.  At that time, all I could think about was putting my book on the shelf of a bookstore.  Thinking back on that, I should have been thinking “Hey! I want to write a best selling book.”  Anyway, I have no regrets because my first book opens up a lot of new opportunities that I never thought of doing before.

Ok… Back to my story… When I finished writing my book, only then I thought of how to get my book printed and out on the bookshelf.  So I thought of finding a publisher.  It was not an easy thing to do.  It took a lot of determination and persistence from a person who didn’t have a slightest idea about publishing.  I had been rejected by so many publisher that in the end I almost got discourage.  During this time I took things one step at a time.  What I did was, I kept telling myself, “One more publisher today.  If I didn’t get this one, I’ll stop.”  But alhamdulillah, I never stopped. Until finally on on fine morning I got a reply from the publisher.

And that was the beginning of my first book, ”Tulisan Cerminan Personaliti Diri”

My First book

It may not be a world best selling book yet but I am very proud of it.  My first attempt I am still learning from this experience and I realise that I could do better.  And I am in the midst of writing a new book much better than this

Like I said earlier, by writing this book, it opens up a lot of new opportunities for me.  Before this I never thought of becoming a coach that shares information with other people through seminars, programs and talks.  I was actually terrified of talking in front of people especially big groups of people

However I learned and still am learning.  And now I am doing things that I never thought I would love.  One of it is sharing knowledge and value add to others through my programs, seminars and talks

Knowledge Sharing with Master Students in UiTM

Now I just love doing this knowledge sharing events

Though I have to admit I still have stage frights at the beginning of each programs but in the end these are the things that give me energy and drive to move forward.

Finally, I found the reason why to I was put on this earth; to share information and value add to others.

I still have a lot of things to share about Ready, Fire, Aims but I think we will continue that in my next post.

But one thing you have to remember, if you know you are doing the right thing then just do it.  A lot of people know that they are ready but keep aiming to ensure that they get the right target and in the end they never actually fire.  If you never fire you will never know whether your target is right or not and you will never have a chance to correct your aim.

See you next time.

Take care.

Khadijah

As you all may have notice, I have not written in my blog for almost 6 months… A lot of people kept asking me the reason why?  Whether I am alright? Whether I have changed my blog? Or whether I am not writing anymore.

The truth is, it is none of the above.  What’s really happened was that I just lost my dad in early December 2010.  Before that he had been very ill so I decided to put everything on hold so that I could help my mom and sister took care of him.  It had been the hardest time of our life but we were grateful for it as we were able to be with him in the last moments of his life.

Although he had passed away 3 months ago, I am still not able to talk about him without crying.  Although he had been sick for quite some times and we had long expected for the worst, but when it happened; it was still a shock to us.

There are a lot of things that I will never get a chance to say to my dad or even show to him but I am taking this opportunity to write something about his as a tribute to him and of the happy memories that he left us.

One thing that I learned from my dad is persistency.  When my dad set his mind to do something or to achieve something, he did the best that he could to achieve it.  He would not stop until he got what he wanted even if he had to stay awake all night long.  

But the best thing that I had ever learned and received from my dad was becoming the kind of person I am today…  He taught me to always improved myself and do everything the best that I can and leave everything else to Allah. 

When I was a kid, I always cried when I did not achieved what I wanted or focused on.  When that happened, my dad always said this, “I know that you already work very hard and you have done your very best.  Maybe if you do something different, you will get what you want or you will get what you want when the time is right.  Whatever the situation is, always remember this… Everything happens for a reason and only Allah know what’s best for you.  You may not achieve what you want today but always look back and see what you have become in achieving what you want.  You may not get what you want today but if you are grateful and work better, you will achieve better things that you have never dream of achieving before.”

Thank you dad for all those years and helping me become who I am today.

Till next time.

See you…

My last post was on 8th February 2010 and it had been almost 3 weeks before I got the chance to write something today

I had been travelling these past few weeks and I am going to travel again tomorrow.

I must start to think about having a team as what I discussed before :-0

Well, the truth is I already started to form some kind of mastermind group.  These people are the one promoting my trainings now.  So currently I am leaving to these people to do what they are good at… doing marketing and I doing what I am good at, talking to people, do presentations and inspiring people

So the next thing I need to think about is having a team for my internet marketing…

You see when you surround yourself with experts, people who are good at what they are doing; your life becomes easier and you will start achieving what you want to achieve.

Because nobody is actually good at doing everything themselves.  It’s good to know what you want others to do for you but doing the real job, you got to leave it to the experts.

All successful people had some kind of mastermind group.  It does not have to be a big group; two people can also form a mastermind group.  So it is not that difficult…isn’t it?

So take the actions now!  If you need to form a group to help you be successful then do it, what are you waiting for.  But one thing you must remember is that if you want people to help you be successful, you must also be ready to help these people be successful too.   So that everyone can become successful

So if you want to be successful start taking actions.  Do what you already plan to do; don’t just stop at planning stage ok, keep moving.  There will be a lot of obstacles and challenges of course but never ever give-up.

And remember I am here to help you

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Ok… I think that’s it for today.  I need to pack now.

See you soon

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

How are you doing?  Hope you are doing fine.

As promise this is my final post…   :-0

Well… My final post for 2009.

Gotcha there!

Ha… Ha… Ha…

Anyway, hope all your dreams and goals that you set on the New Year Eve of 2009 have come true. 

If you have not achieve all yet, well put them into your 2010 resolutions and take actions (more actions than in 2009) to achieve them.  I know that’s what I am going.

However if you have not taken any action to make your resolutions or dreams or goals happened … Well, you should be ashame of yourself!  Wake up! It is almost the end of 2009 and 2010 is coming!

Unfortunately the past is in the past.  There’s nothing you can do about it. 

What you can do now is renew those 2009′s resolutions and make sure you take actions in 2010.  And the first thing that you need to do is change your habits, habits that lead you to where you are now.

You should go to my website at http://www.amazingwriting.com and read my e-report “Habits that cause you to fail” and follow what suggested to be done.  If you have any enquiry, anything at all; please let me know.

Or you should read my “15 Secrets of Making Money with Personality Revealed” that will show you how to identify the negative habits in you and turn them into positve and successful habits.

For those who achieved all your 2009′s resolutions, congratulation! 

Start making new goals or resolutions or targets for 2010.  Why because that is how we become better person and to make sure that we are always in the momentum to be successful.  When you already achieve your goals make new ones

As for me, I achieve some of my goals while others take longer time to achieve than I had anticipated.  However I am not worried, I am optimistic about 2010

Of course there are also frustrations and disappointments in 2009 however I am considering these as learning curve that guide me to become a better person.  Because sometimes the things that we really want may not be something that is good for us.  So always be grateful and take better actions next time.

2009 has been a learning curve for me too.  I got to know and became the student of John Thornhill, get to know Daniel, Steve from invinity, Kevin, Carol, PJ, Mark, becomes the student of Russell Brunson and many more internet marketers that I don’t manage to mention them here (too long list ) and also people from the ministries and many more. 

I get to know about twitter (remember to follow me at twitter) and also got to learn about body language from an ex FBI agent… How cool is that!

I think next year I will talk about body language too.  So stay tune

But best of all, I get to know you, share with you my experience along 2009 and the knowledge that I had learned.

Thank you for being a good listener and friend.  Thank you for all your comments.

I hope these will continue in 2010 and beyond

Good bye 2009 and welcome 2010….

I pray that 2010 will bring prosperity to all of us.

See you in 2010!

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

And a merry christmas to those who celebrate it.

Well, it is 6 days before the end of 2009, time to make new resolution

But wait!

How about this year resolution?  Have you achieve it?

Have you go in diet to lose weight as you plan to do?  Have you been exercising as you promise yourself? Have you been eating healthy food?

Have you take the course that you have been thinking about taking? Have you pursue the degree or the master that you have been planning to take?

Have you follow your dream to travel around the world?  Have  you spend more time with your love ones as you promised them?

Have you eliminate the negative habits that you want to eliminate?  Have you been practising the positive habits?

Have you start the business that you always talk about?

Some people are committed to making new year resolution every year however when it’s time to put the resolution into action, they just look away. 

“I got a lot of work today, I am tired.  I am going to start tomorrow.”  And tomorrow the same excuse again and until one day you suddenly realize that it is the end of the year.  And you ask yourself, “Where does the time goes?” or “How can the time goes so fast… “  And your new year resolution is just new year resolution.

Having a dream or a resolution or a goal is a good thing.  It makes you focus on what you want to do, where you want to go and what you want to achieve.  However taking the action to make your dream or your resolution or your goal comes true, that’s the most important part.

You can have the best goal you want to achieve but without taking the action to make it comes true, best goal doesn’t mean anything.  In the end it leave you with a question why your are not achieving your goal yet?

So come on my friends, start making your dreams and goals and resolutions come true. Start taking actions to make them happen.

I am here to help you.

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I hope that your 2009 resolution have been fulfill and you have a great 2009

I plan to have one more post for 2009 before 2010

Talk to you soon.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

It is a beautiful monday afternoon and I hope that everybody is doing well.

I was supposed to write last week but suddenly out of no where both my hands developed rashes. It was just itched at first and when I began to scratch it turned red and developed something like mosquito bites.

I went to the doctor last week and she said it was nothing, it may had been something I ate that I was allergic to.  I wonder what it was as I ate normal food that I always eat and I never develop any allergy to anything before. 

In the end I concluded that there must be something that I normally eat but this time I ate more than the usual portion that cause the allergy to developed.   Nice conclusion huh!  I don’t want to create any headache thinking about it

Well, how am I now?  The itchiness almost gone maybe due to the medicine I am taking but the rashes are still there though not as bright red as before.  I had to cancel my trip and a few appointments because I didn’t want to scratch like mad in front of people and the medicine that I am taking makes me feel really drowsy.  I could just drop to sleep even while I am talking  :-)

Well, that was just me developing self-consciousness and procrastination…  Even for a person who teach people about self-esteem, self-confidence and all the positive personality, I could sometimes develop negative personality too.  I am only human … but once I realized what I was doing I bounced back into actions.  So at last I kept the important appointment and explained to the other appointment and able to postpone them.  Luckily people understand.

You see, the most important thing that differentiate whether we are going to be successful or not is ourselves.  What is our habits and attitude especially when face with challenges.

When face with challenges some people just back-out and give-up whatever they are working for to achieve their goals.  Some people procrastinate waiting for some miracle or luck to happen so that they could achieve success.  Have you ever heard the saying, “Luck is actually something we create.”?

 However for those who have persistence, determination and focusing on their goals, they will do everything it takes to achieve their goals.   Like what I said to someone just the other day, “There are always challenges when we want to achieve success.  Therefore to be successful, we need to be flexible.  We need to be able to go around, over or under the challenges we are facing if we are not able to go through it.  Then only we can achieve our goals”

So it is important to really understand your personality, your habits or your attitude. 

For example, you may not realize that you are the kind of person that likes to procrastinate doing something and yet you are always wondering why you never achieve your goals or any success.  By understanding that you have procrastination habit, you can eliminate the habit and start to achieve success in everything you do.

One of the way to understand your personality and understand the negative habits that you have is through your handwriting.

If you want to know more about handwriting analysis, you can visit my website at http://www.amazingwriting.com

Or read my eBook “15 Secrets of Making Money with Positive Personality Revealed”

 You will be able to understand yourself better and will achieve success along the way.

Got to go now.  My rashes have started to itch  :-0

See you soon.

Take care.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah