Hi!  How are you today? Hope all of you are doing great

How’s your mother’s day celebration?  Hope that all of you did celebrate you mom’s on Sunday.  Some of you may not have a mom anymore but you can still celebrate mother’s day by reciting prayers for them. That would be one way of celebrating our moms the most beautiful and wonderful creations in this world.

All the men and women in this world would definitely have a mother and most women in this world would have the opportunity to be a mother. 

Today I am not going to talk about all mothers in whole world.  Today I am going to specifically talk about one mother, my mom.

My Mom

One thing about my mom is that she is always concern about her children and her grandchildren.  She always is concern when the grandchildren is not studying, not eating right or even not having enough sleep .  She is the one who would be most worried when the grandchildren are sick.  I think my nieces and nephew are more closer to my mom than their own mother.

Though my mom does not have the highest education or graduated from university, she always emphasize on us the important of education whether it is a formal or informal education.  She always said that there is something that we can learn from the whole situations.  I learnt a lot of things from my mom.  One important thing I learnt and made me the person I am today is the courage to follow my dreams.  When I was down and feeling discouraged, she would always said that this is just a challenge for me to grow, if I let it go now I would never find out who am I and what I am capable of.  When thing happened, it happened for a reason.  It may be due to we did the wrong thing or we are not doing the thing right.  So we must access ourselves and make a step forward.

Wise words from someone who never had a high formal education but a lot of experience in life.

With her way of thinking, I think my mom can effectively lead a company to success.

To me my mom is the most wonderful and the greatest mom in the whole world.  She is also my best friend.  We had gone through the happiest and saddest times together.

The saddest time we experienced together was when my dad passed away in the end of 2010.  I could see the pain in her eyes, departing from the love of her life.  However she is a strong woman, she could still managed things to ensure that the funeral went smoothly.

I think mother’s day should not be celebrated once a year.  It should be celebrated everyday, counting every moment that our mothers took care of us.

There was a saying that said “A mother could take care of 10 of her children, understand each of their behaviours, likes and dislikes.  But 10 children are not able to take care of one mother, to honour her and to love her.”

Happy mother’s day, mom.  You are everything to me

Until next time…

Hope you all are doing great today.

As for me, I am feeling really great

Just celebrated my birthday this month a day to remember.

Received a bouquet of roses too

Roses for my birthday

 Anyway… That is not what I want to talk about today.

Remember in February I wrote a post about Thomas Edison…  Well, I received some comments from a very good friend of mine.

He said that what I wrote there was not me… He said that normally when I wrote something there was an umph, something that felt like it was from me, from my heart, something unique.  But in that post it was like somebody else was writing instead of me…  

And when I read back what I wrote, I realised that he was right.  It was like I was writing for the sake of writing not truly something from my heart.  It was truly not me.  I was trying to copy someone else styles of writing and it didn’t reflect me at all

It made me realised that you can never be somebody else in whatever you do.  Not even in writing.

When you do something it must come fully from your heart, not half-hearted, not quarter hearted.  It must be in full; so that the result will be satisfying to you and everyone else.  Only then it will reflect who you are.

When you do something with your whole heart, you will give your best effort, your best idea, the best of you to make it work.  And when what you are working for works, the satisfaction can never be described. 

Even if it doesn’t work, you will still feel satisfy as you already put your very best in it.  There would not be any “If only I do this better”, “If only I think of this differently”, “If only this and that…..”  There will be no if only…  You will only think, “Ok… I have done my best but it doesn’t work so I better take the next step.” 

No brooding, no thinking of what if….   Because if you carry on to brood, you would never achieve anything and it is also not very good for your heart.

Talking about the heart do you know that helping others is good for your heart physically and spiritually .  I can guarantee that when you help others, do something for others, the feeling of satisfaction can never be replace by anything else.  But wanting to help others must come from the heart; remember that you want to help others because you want to help them not because you want to get praises or something in return or rewards or seeing your face in the newspapers. 

You want to help others because you want to see them develop and become a better people, you want to see the smiles in their faces and you want to see them helping others in return.  If that what you have in mind then helping others will actual helps you instead.  It will help you to become a better person instead and it would be better for your heart too because you are feeling happy and satisfy. 

So you see helping others will help you as a whole, making you a better person physically, mentally and physically

Therefore whatever you want to do, do it from your heart.  The result will be able to warm your heart, make you satisfy and it would also be your great gift to others.

And I would also like to thank my friend for making me realise that.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

See you all next time.

Take care…

In my opinion, this is really true.  In my opinion life is not always full of rainbows. sunshine, colours and musics.  Most of the times it is also fills with rain, thunderstorm, black and white and even sutnami

Well, the truth is that all the roadblocks, hurdles and challenges are how we can grow.  Because all the challenges, roadblocks and hurdles are truthfully our opportunities to learn and grow.  It is the opportunity to become what we want to be.  If everything is so great in our life then we will never learn, never able to grow and most probably forget our roots, where we came from.

Let me share with you a story about  a little boy who overcome all the challenges, hurdles and roadblocks and became a great man.  At the age of 7, his teacher always pointed out about his unusually broad forehead and saying that his head was considerably larger than average.  His teacher believed that this hyperactive youngster had a brain that was “addled” or scrambled.

He also had a poor hearing and because of the negative treatments he received from his teacher, his mother who believed that her son was intelligent withdrew him from school.  Due to this he only had 3 months of formal education.

However he loved reading and he loved asking questions.  He was exposed to history and english literature and was very interested in Shakespear’s plays that he briefly considered himself to become an actor.  However because of his high-pitched voice and extreme shyness in front of audiences he soon gave up his idea.

His parents especially his mother believed in his ability when nobody else did.  They introduced him to the use of library to appease his voracious appetite to knowledge.  He became interested in Science and very into Newton’s theory.

As he grew up, he developed a strong sense of perseverance, readily expending whatever amount of perspiration needed to overcome challenges. 

He was once being struck by a train conductor due to an accident that caused a baggage car to catch a fire.  This may had add to the hearing loss that he already inherited and from later from a scarlet fever.  By the time he was 14 years old, it  was  virtually impossible for him to acquire knowledge in a typical educational setting. Amazingly,  however, he never seemed to fret a whole lot over the matter. Naturally inclined towards accepting his fate in life – and promptly  adapting to whatever he was convinced was out of his control -he always reacted by committing  himself to compensating via  alternative methods….

ltimately, he  became totally deaf in his left ear, and approximately 80% deaf in his right ear.

To make his story short, he encountered a lot of disappointments, rejections and failures, challenges and roadblocks.  He even been in deeply debt and almost being fired from his job.

But he never gave up.  He was Thomas Edison who invented the first commercially practical incandescent electric light bulb.

You can read more about him in his biography and books about his life and inventions.

What I am trying to say and even to remind myself is that to become successful is not easy.  Challenges, roadblocks and hurdles are part of life and makes path towards success much interesting

They are there to make sure that we never forget our roots when we are at the top.

Hope to see you soon, till next time

Take care.  

I think it is still not too late to wish all of my friends a very happy new year though today is already day 10th of 2012 . 

I miss writing here and miss talking to all my friends, that’s you if you have forgotten that

I have been away from my desk for two months.  Some of you may know that I went to Mekah since October 2011.  Came back earlier December and only now manage to write.  My mistake…  Been in my comfort zone for too long :-( that I forgot that I am a writer and writing gives me energy to look forward to life.

I would like to share with you my experience and stories while I was in Mekah and Madinah but that would be in my next posts.  I promise .  There’s so much that I would like to share, especially my experience that can make us a better person and I hope that by sharing my experience with you, makes me a better person even more.

Today I am not going to talk about Mekah or Madinah.  I want to talk about well, what else… new resolution as now is just the beginning of 2012

Well, you might be saying that this is going to be something boring as everybody is talking about new resolution everytimes new year comes. Yes, I agreed to that and yes everybody is talking about new resolution nowadays.  Actually I did talked about new resolution last year

So without breaking the tradition, I am going to talk about new resolution again…

I believe that our resolution should be renewed; not every early of the year but early of each day.  I hope you don’t misunderstood my words, therefore I am going to say this again; “Resolution should be renewed everyday not every early of the year.”

Why? You might ask.

Well, the way I see it, we should review our resolution at the end of every day i.e. before we go to sleep so that we can see whether what we have done that day aligned with our resolution or not and whether our resolution is really what we want, the thing that is going to make us happy in the end.

By reviewing this everyday we will always know whether we are in the right direction or not and whether we are making the right resolution to move towards our goal. 

It is something like a pilot who is flying the airplane, always checking whether he is in the right direction towards his destination.  If he is diverted from his destination, he will correct his way and fly back to the right direction.  And if he arrive in a wrong destination, he can always turn back and fly towards the right destination.  Provided of course the plane has enough fuel to fly there

Well, you got the picture.

Same with us, if we always check our actions, we will always know whether what we do are align with our resolution and whether our resolution is making us move towards our goal, our destination.  And when suddenly we realize our resolution is a wrong one, we can make an immediate change to achieve our goal and have a happy life.

You see, things that makes us happy are the things that make us move forward.  If we are not happy with what we are doing, we will remain static, be in just the same place or even worst move backward.

I learned this the hard way.  I did something that I thought would bring me closer to my goal but truthfully it did not as I didn’t checked.   And I wasted the whole year doing just that.  In the end I realized that I was not moving forward at all instead moving much further away from my goal and suffered for the whole year not being happy. 

Luckily someone made me realized what I did.  Though it was painful to swallow but it was the truth.  Hey! I am a human being, I make mistakes too.  Like the saying “If you never make mistake, you will never grow.”

So my friends, I hope that I have share something valuable with you today and it will make you a better person today.  If you make the wrong resolution last year, well you still have time to change it.  It is never too late to make the change.  As long as you are breathing, it is not too late no matter how old your are.

If you make a mistake, be sad, cry if you want to but after that review it and make improvement.  Like a good friend of mine said don’t brood over it. 

Remember this; everything happens for a reason, whether the thing that happens is good or bad.  What happens next is much more important; it will depend on how we handle the situation.

Just to share with you, something bad happened to me today, I admit I brood about it at first but in the end I realize in a way it is a good thing.  As it gave me the will to write tonight and realize the right direction to move.  So it is not a bad thing after all

I am signing off with this prayer, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

See you next time soon.

Take care

Hope today has been a great day for you.  Hope that tomorrow, the day after tomorrow and days after that will be a great days for all of you.

That is how we should face our days… with positive attitude.  Because when we are positive everything that comes our way will be positive.  It is the law of attraction, alike attracts alike

If you start your day with hatred in your heart, negative attitude or even negative thinking; your whole day will be negative too.  Believe me… It will.  You will feel that you are a victim and the whole world is against you.

So start your day with a positive feeling.  Smile even if you do not feel you want to and you will make your day and others worthwhile

When you are positive, people who are following you will be positive too. When you are always angry, your followers or your subordinates will in the end do the same too. 

“People follow what they see not what they hear.”

Especially if you are a leader of your organization.  Being positive is much more crucial.

Wait! I can hear you saying that you are not the CEO of your organization.  Well, you don’t have to be a CEO or a manager to become a leader.  A leader can emerge at any level of the organization.  A simple definition of leadership is the ability to obtain followers. 

Therefore even if you are at the bottom level of your organization but you have followers or people who admire you then you are a leader.  And to become a good leader your need to develop good attitude.

It’s true that good attitudes alone may not be the asset that makes us a great leader but these good attitudes will help us reach our full potential.  These will differentiate us from those who have wrong or bad attitudes.

Like what Walt Emerson said “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

One of the attitudes of a good leader is listening skill.  You need to teach yourself  to listen to people’s dreams, motivations, hopes, strengths and even weaknesses.  When you listen, you need to listen with your heart not only with your ears.  Your body language must shows that you are interested to listen to their stories. With this attitude, people will know that you care and then only they will follow you.

One simple trait in your handwriting that shows that you are a good listener is in the letter “e”.  I am not saying that this is the only trait but as an example I am showing you the simplest.

People who write their “e” like the above encourages others input and listen with an open mind

However you must also remember that other traits or attitudes you have may reduce this trait in you.  For example you may have this trait but you are also a stubborn person which will definitely reduce your good listening attitude.

Therefore the first step to become a good leader is, you must assess yourself, make the necessary changes for the better and people around you will follow to change for the better too.

Lets continue in my next post…

Take care and see you.

All through my life, I have been doing things in this sequence. 

Well, let’s not talk to far into my childhood because that might bores you.  Let’s just talk about the things that I did from few years back…

When I first got inspired on writing a book, I just said to myself, “Hey! I want to write a book.  I got the data and information that I think is very valuable and I want to share it with others.”  So I started writing.  At that time, all I could think about was putting my book on the shelf of a bookstore.  Thinking back on that, I should have been thinking “Hey! I want to write a best selling book.”  Anyway, I have no regrets because my first book opens up a lot of new opportunities that I never thought of doing before.

Ok… Back to my story… When I finished writing my book, only then I thought of how to get my book printed and out on the bookshelf.  So I thought of finding a publisher.  It was not an easy thing to do.  It took a lot of determination and persistence from a person who didn’t have a slightest idea about publishing.  I had been rejected by so many publisher that in the end I almost got discourage.  During this time I took things one step at a time.  What I did was, I kept telling myself, “One more publisher today.  If I didn’t get this one, I’ll stop.”  But alhamdulillah, I never stopped. Until finally on on fine morning I got a reply from the publisher.

And that was the beginning of my first book, ”Tulisan Cerminan Personaliti Diri”

My First book

It may not be a world best selling book yet but I am very proud of it.  My first attempt I am still learning from this experience and I realise that I could do better.  And I am in the midst of writing a new book much better than this

Like I said earlier, by writing this book, it opens up a lot of new opportunities for me.  Before this I never thought of becoming a coach that shares information with other people through seminars, programs and talks.  I was actually terrified of talking in front of people especially big groups of people

However I learned and still am learning.  And now I am doing things that I never thought I would love.  One of it is sharing knowledge and value add to others through my programs, seminars and talks

Knowledge Sharing with Master Students in UiTM

Now I just love doing this knowledge sharing events

Though I have to admit I still have stage frights at the beginning of each programs but in the end these are the things that give me energy and drive to move forward.

Finally, I found the reason why to I was put on this earth; to share information and value add to others.

I still have a lot of things to share about Ready, Fire, Aims but I think we will continue that in my next post.

But one thing you have to remember, if you know you are doing the right thing then just do it.  A lot of people know that they are ready but keep aiming to ensure that they get the right target and in the end they never actually fire.  If you never fire you will never know whether your target is right or not and you will never have a chance to correct your aim.

See you next time.

Take care.

Khadijah

As you all may have notice, I have not written in my blog for almost 6 months… A lot of people kept asking me the reason why?  Whether I am alright? Whether I have changed my blog? Or whether I am not writing anymore.

The truth is, it is none of the above.  What’s really happened was that I just lost my dad in early December 2010.  Before that he had been very ill so I decided to put everything on hold so that I could help my mom and sister took care of him.  It had been the hardest time of our life but we were grateful for it as we were able to be with him in the last moments of his life.

Although he had passed away 3 months ago, I am still not able to talk about him without crying.  Although he had been sick for quite some times and we had long expected for the worst, but when it happened; it was still a shock to us.

There are a lot of things that I will never get a chance to say to my dad or even show to him but I am taking this opportunity to write something about his as a tribute to him and of the happy memories that he left us.

One thing that I learned from my dad is persistency.  When my dad set his mind to do something or to achieve something, he did the best that he could to achieve it.  He would not stop until he got what he wanted even if he had to stay awake all night long.  

But the best thing that I had ever learned and received from my dad was becoming the kind of person I am today…  He taught me to always improved myself and do everything the best that I can and leave everything else to Allah. 

When I was a kid, I always cried when I did not achieved what I wanted or focused on.  When that happened, my dad always said this, “I know that you already work very hard and you have done your very best.  Maybe if you do something different, you will get what you want or you will get what you want when the time is right.  Whatever the situation is, always remember this… Everything happens for a reason and only Allah know what’s best for you.  You may not achieve what you want today but always look back and see what you have become in achieving what you want.  You may not get what you want today but if you are grateful and work better, you will achieve better things that you have never dream of achieving before.”

Thank you dad for all those years and helping me become who I am today.

Till next time.

See you…

How many books you read in a day? In a week? In a month? In a year?

Do you remember the book or books that inspire you?

Do you remember the book that start to make you re-think about your purpose in life and change your life forever? 

I still remember mine…

Since I was little I liked to read books.  I used to read mystery books, horror books, romance novels and lots of other books.  But I never really read any inspiring or motivational books.

I never really remember how it began but I will always remember the day I picked up the book that give me the inspiration, re-think about my life, realized my true purpose and change my life forever; a 180 degree change. 

And since then, there are always books that inspire and motivate me to move forward in life. 

Sometimes… When I feel down, discourage and de-motivate; I can just pick a book and there are always inspiring words or advises that encourage and motivate me to move forward and face the challenge.  It is like a coach or a mentor advising me what to do.

Weird isn’t it…  But it is a good weird

You see, when you want to be successful in whatever you do, you need to learn.

Learn from everything.  Learn from your own life experience, other people life experience such even from your parents, read books, attend trainings, find coaches or mentors and even observe everything around you. 

There will always things that can help you become a better person

Just open your mind and always be ready to learn. 

For some people when something bad happened to them, they just shut their eyes and miss the valuable lesson.  But not you because you know that most of the time challenges and failures are the most valuable things that teach you valuable lessons and bring you a step closer towards your dreams.

Remember this, there will always be lessons in everything that happens to you whether it is good or bad.  The important thing is that how you look at these lessons and how you use it.

If you think that life experiences and reading good books are not enough to help you achieve your dreams then find a coach or a mentor.    

Me and my coach

Coaches and mentors can also be your eyes opener and help you achieve your dreams.

But the most important thing of all, YOU must take the action.

Ok… See you next time.

Talk to you soon

Hope you are doing well. 

It has been a busy month and finally today I have the opportunity to write.

Before I write further, I want to ask you a question.  What is success to you?

Is success means making millions of dollars?

Is success means becoming rich?

Is success means owning multi-millions businesses?

Is success means raising healthy and happy children?

Is success means that you have a successful career?

Or is success means that you are happy with what you are doing and are happy with your life?

In my opinion different people would have different opinion about success.  Some people would consider themselves as successful when they earn millions of dollars or have their own successful businesses.  Some people would consider themselves as successful when their children are happy and successful themselves while others consider themselves as successful when they are able to help as many people as they can.

So you see… Different people have different definition on success and there is no right and wrong answers.

What’s may seems successful to me, may not seem successful to you and vice versa.

However whatever definition and opinion you have about success, one thing that we have in common is that when you and I want to achieve whatever success we want; we need to work for it.

We need to have determination, persistance, believe in ourselves and overcome any challenges and obstacles until we achieve the success that we have been dreaming about.  We need to be focus and not let our eyes off our goals until the day we successfully achieve it.

Therefore no matter whats success means to you, you have to do all you can to achieve that success.

Like what Vince Lombardi said, “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.”

Recently I had the opportunity to attend a seminar in Singapore where I met people from all over the world and most of them are people from all around Asia. 

My new friends from all over the world

These people are successful in their own ways.  Some of them are successful parents, directors, managers, trainers, sales persons, husbands and even wifes.  All of them are working their very best in the things that they believe in and are good at what they are doing.

All of them have a number of things in common:

1.  Believe in themselves.

2. Determination.

3. Persistence.

4. Doing the best that they can.

5. Good heart.

And they all come from different part of this world.

So you see, you can be anywhere in this world but when you want to be successful, you will need to have the same attitude as anyone in any part of the world that already are successful.

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Talk to you soon.

Until then… take care.

Khadijah

How are you?  Hope you are doing well

As for me, I am doing great though a bit exhausted :-0

I will be travelling again next week and this time it will be for a whole (until my birthday, that is )

So I will not be able to talk to you the whole of next week.  I will be back the week after next week.

For those who had been writing to me, I apologize for taking some times to reply your emails.  To those that have not receive my replies, I hope that you will be patient.  I am a bit slow in replying but I will reply, that’s my promise.  Things are a bit hectic around here especially now as I am involve in a commercial job and everything   I guess I have to find a mastermind soon…

Anyway this is not what I want to talk about today.

As promise, today I want to talk about the number two key to successes and riches.

It is Sound Physical Health.

I could hear some of you saying, what!!!  Physical Health???

Does she knows what she is talking about?

To answer that question, yes I do…

Think of it this way, if you have all the riches in this world; all the gold and diamonds and money but you are always sick and have to stay in bed all day and night, would all the riches mean anything to you.  Ok, you might say that you have all the money so you can pay for the best doctor to cure you.  However what if this best doctor does not know what’s wrong with you.  This doctor’s solution is to cut you to see what is wrong inside of you.  Would you want to do that?  Do you want to be reach with scars all over your body?

I don’t think so…

So as you are working towards your successes and riches, you must also work to take care of you health. 

Eat healthy and do exercise.  Take great care of your body.  You only have one body…  No money in this world would be able to make another body for you.

One way to stay healthy is to eat moderately.  Researches had shown that unhealthiness starts from the stomach.  So eat whatever you body needs instead of eating everything your heart desire…

There’s also a saying that say, “Eat when you are hungry and stop before you are full.” 

However most of us keep on eating even after we are full

So take great care of your body so that you are healthy and able to enjoy the successes and reaches that you achieve.

Ok… With that I am going to stop here.

See you again the week after next week.

In the mean time, remember to read my 15 Secrets of Making Money with Positve Personality Revealed

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You can also join me in facebook or twitter.  I will soon include the links here.

So… See you soon.

Stay happy and healthy.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah