I think it is still not too late to wish all of my friends a very happy new year though today is already day 10th of 2012 . 

I miss writing here and miss talking to all my friends, that’s you if you have forgotten that

I have been away from my desk for two months.  Some of you may know that I went to Mekah since October 2011.  Came back earlier December and only now manage to write.  My mistake…  Been in my comfort zone for too long :-( that I forgot that I am a writer and writing gives me energy to look forward to life.

I would like to share with you my experience and stories while I was in Mekah and Madinah but that would be in my next posts.  I promise .  There’s so much that I would like to share, especially my experience that can make us a better person and I hope that by sharing my experience with you, makes me a better person even more.

Today I am not going to talk about Mekah or Madinah.  I want to talk about well, what else… new resolution as now is just the beginning of 2012

Well, you might be saying that this is going to be something boring as everybody is talking about new resolution everytimes new year comes. Yes, I agreed to that and yes everybody is talking about new resolution nowadays.  Actually I did talked about new resolution last year

So without breaking the tradition, I am going to talk about new resolution again…

I believe that our resolution should be renewed; not every early of the year but early of each day.  I hope you don’t misunderstood my words, therefore I am going to say this again; “Resolution should be renewed everyday not every early of the year.”

Why? You might ask.

Well, the way I see it, we should review our resolution at the end of every day i.e. before we go to sleep so that we can see whether what we have done that day aligned with our resolution or not and whether our resolution is really what we want, the thing that is going to make us happy in the end.

By reviewing this everyday we will always know whether we are in the right direction or not and whether we are making the right resolution to move towards our goal. 

It is something like a pilot who is flying the airplane, always checking whether he is in the right direction towards his destination.  If he is diverted from his destination, he will correct his way and fly back to the right direction.  And if he arrive in a wrong destination, he can always turn back and fly towards the right destination.  Provided of course the plane has enough fuel to fly there

Well, you got the picture.

Same with us, if we always check our actions, we will always know whether what we do are align with our resolution and whether our resolution is making us move towards our goal, our destination.  And when suddenly we realize our resolution is a wrong one, we can make an immediate change to achieve our goal and have a happy life.

You see, things that makes us happy are the things that make us move forward.  If we are not happy with what we are doing, we will remain static, be in just the same place or even worst move backward.

I learned this the hard way.  I did something that I thought would bring me closer to my goal but truthfully it did not as I didn’t checked.   And I wasted the whole year doing just that.  In the end I realized that I was not moving forward at all instead moving much further away from my goal and suffered for the whole year not being happy. 

Luckily someone made me realized what I did.  Though it was painful to swallow but it was the truth.  Hey! I am a human being, I make mistakes too.  Like the saying “If you never make mistake, you will never grow.”

So my friends, I hope that I have share something valuable with you today and it will make you a better person today.  If you make the wrong resolution last year, well you still have time to change it.  It is never too late to make the change.  As long as you are breathing, it is not too late no matter how old your are.

If you make a mistake, be sad, cry if you want to but after that review it and make improvement.  Like a good friend of mine said don’t brood over it. 

Remember this; everything happens for a reason, whether the thing that happens is good or bad.  What happens next is much more important; it will depend on how we handle the situation.

Just to share with you, something bad happened to me today, I admit I brood about it at first but in the end I realize in a way it is a good thing.  As it gave me the will to write tonight and realize the right direction to move.  So it is not a bad thing after all

I am signing off with this prayer, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

See you next time soon.

Take care

Hope today has been a great day for you.  Hope that tomorrow, the day after tomorrow and days after that will be a great days for all of you.

That is how we should face our days… with positive attitude.  Because when we are positive everything that comes our way will be positive.  It is the law of attraction, alike attracts alike

If you start your day with hatred in your heart, negative attitude or even negative thinking; your whole day will be negative too.  Believe me… It will.  You will feel that you are a victim and the whole world is against you.

So start your day with a positive feeling.  Smile even if you do not feel you want to and you will make your day and others worthwhile

When you are positive, people who are following you will be positive too. When you are always angry, your followers or your subordinates will in the end do the same too. 

“People follow what they see not what they hear.”

Especially if you are a leader of your organization.  Being positive is much more crucial.

Wait! I can hear you saying that you are not the CEO of your organization.  Well, you don’t have to be a CEO or a manager to become a leader.  A leader can emerge at any level of the organization.  A simple definition of leadership is the ability to obtain followers. 

Therefore even if you are at the bottom level of your organization but you have followers or people who admire you then you are a leader.  And to become a good leader your need to develop good attitude.

It’s true that good attitudes alone may not be the asset that makes us a great leader but these good attitudes will help us reach our full potential.  These will differentiate us from those who have wrong or bad attitudes.

Like what Walt Emerson said “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

One of the attitudes of a good leader is listening skill.  You need to teach yourself  to listen to people’s dreams, motivations, hopes, strengths and even weaknesses.  When you listen, you need to listen with your heart not only with your ears.  Your body language must shows that you are interested to listen to their stories. With this attitude, people will know that you care and then only they will follow you.

One simple trait in your handwriting that shows that you are a good listener is in the letter “e”.  I am not saying that this is the only trait but as an example I am showing you the simplest.

People who write their “e” like the above encourages others input and listen with an open mind

However you must also remember that other traits or attitudes you have may reduce this trait in you.  For example you may have this trait but you are also a stubborn person which will definitely reduce your good listening attitude.

Therefore the first step to become a good leader is, you must assess yourself, make the necessary changes for the better and people around you will follow to change for the better too.

Lets continue in my next post…

Take care and see you.

All through my life, I have been doing things in this sequence. 

Well, let’s not talk to far into my childhood because that might bores you.  Let’s just talk about the things that I did from few years back…

When I first got inspired on writing a book, I just said to myself, “Hey! I want to write a book.  I got the data and information that I think is very valuable and I want to share it with others.”  So I started writing.  At that time, all I could think about was putting my book on the shelf of a bookstore.  Thinking back on that, I should have been thinking “Hey! I want to write a best selling book.”  Anyway, I have no regrets because my first book opens up a lot of new opportunities that I never thought of doing before.

Ok… Back to my story… When I finished writing my book, only then I thought of how to get my book printed and out on the bookshelf.  So I thought of finding a publisher.  It was not an easy thing to do.  It took a lot of determination and persistence from a person who didn’t have a slightest idea about publishing.  I had been rejected by so many publisher that in the end I almost got discourage.  During this time I took things one step at a time.  What I did was, I kept telling myself, “One more publisher today.  If I didn’t get this one, I’ll stop.”  But alhamdulillah, I never stopped. Until finally on on fine morning I got a reply from the publisher.

And that was the beginning of my first book, ”Tulisan Cerminan Personaliti Diri”

My First book

It may not be a world best selling book yet but I am very proud of it.  My first attempt I am still learning from this experience and I realise that I could do better.  And I am in the midst of writing a new book much better than this

Like I said earlier, by writing this book, it opens up a lot of new opportunities for me.  Before this I never thought of becoming a coach that shares information with other people through seminars, programs and talks.  I was actually terrified of talking in front of people especially big groups of people

However I learned and still am learning.  And now I am doing things that I never thought I would love.  One of it is sharing knowledge and value add to others through my programs, seminars and talks

Knowledge Sharing with Master Students in UiTM

Now I just love doing this knowledge sharing events

Though I have to admit I still have stage frights at the beginning of each programs but in the end these are the things that give me energy and drive to move forward.

Finally, I found the reason why to I was put on this earth; to share information and value add to others.

I still have a lot of things to share about Ready, Fire, Aims but I think we will continue that in my next post.

But one thing you have to remember, if you know you are doing the right thing then just do it.  A lot of people know that they are ready but keep aiming to ensure that they get the right target and in the end they never actually fire.  If you never fire you will never know whether your target is right or not and you will never have a chance to correct your aim.

See you next time.

Take care.

Khadijah

As you all may have notice, I have not written in my blog for almost 6 months… A lot of people kept asking me the reason why?  Whether I am alright? Whether I have changed my blog? Or whether I am not writing anymore.

The truth is, it is none of the above.  What’s really happened was that I just lost my dad in early December 2010.  Before that he had been very ill so I decided to put everything on hold so that I could help my mom and sister took care of him.  It had been the hardest time of our life but we were grateful for it as we were able to be with him in the last moments of his life.

Although he had passed away 3 months ago, I am still not able to talk about him without crying.  Although he had been sick for quite some times and we had long expected for the worst, but when it happened; it was still a shock to us.

There are a lot of things that I will never get a chance to say to my dad or even show to him but I am taking this opportunity to write something about his as a tribute to him and of the happy memories that he left us.

One thing that I learned from my dad is persistency.  When my dad set his mind to do something or to achieve something, he did the best that he could to achieve it.  He would not stop until he got what he wanted even if he had to stay awake all night long.  

But the best thing that I had ever learned and received from my dad was becoming the kind of person I am today…  He taught me to always improved myself and do everything the best that I can and leave everything else to Allah. 

When I was a kid, I always cried when I did not achieved what I wanted or focused on.  When that happened, my dad always said this, “I know that you already work very hard and you have done your very best.  Maybe if you do something different, you will get what you want or you will get what you want when the time is right.  Whatever the situation is, always remember this… Everything happens for a reason and only Allah know what’s best for you.  You may not achieve what you want today but always look back and see what you have become in achieving what you want.  You may not get what you want today but if you are grateful and work better, you will achieve better things that you have never dream of achieving before.”

Thank you dad for all those years and helping me become who I am today.

Till next time.

See you…

How many books you read in a day? In a week? In a month? In a year?

Do you remember the book or books that inspire you?

Do you remember the book that start to make you re-think about your purpose in life and change your life forever? 

I still remember mine…

Since I was little I liked to read books.  I used to read mystery books, horror books, romance novels and lots of other books.  But I never really read any inspiring or motivational books.

I never really remember how it began but I will always remember the day I picked up the book that give me the inspiration, re-think about my life, realized my true purpose and change my life forever; a 180 degree change. 

And since then, there are always books that inspire and motivate me to move forward in life. 

Sometimes… When I feel down, discourage and de-motivate; I can just pick a book and there are always inspiring words or advises that encourage and motivate me to move forward and face the challenge.  It is like a coach or a mentor advising me what to do.

Weird isn’t it…  But it is a good weird

You see, when you want to be successful in whatever you do, you need to learn.

Learn from everything.  Learn from your own life experience, other people life experience such even from your parents, read books, attend trainings, find coaches or mentors and even observe everything around you. 

There will always things that can help you become a better person

Just open your mind and always be ready to learn. 

For some people when something bad happened to them, they just shut their eyes and miss the valuable lesson.  But not you because you know that most of the time challenges and failures are the most valuable things that teach you valuable lessons and bring you a step closer towards your dreams.

Remember this, there will always be lessons in everything that happens to you whether it is good or bad.  The important thing is that how you look at these lessons and how you use it.

If you think that life experiences and reading good books are not enough to help you achieve your dreams then find a coach or a mentor.    

Me and my coach

Coaches and mentors can also be your eyes opener and help you achieve your dreams.

But the most important thing of all, YOU must take the action.

Ok… See you next time.

Talk to you soon

Hope you are doing well. 

It has been a busy month and finally today I have the opportunity to write.

Before I write further, I want to ask you a question.  What is success to you?

Is success means making millions of dollars?

Is success means becoming rich?

Is success means owning multi-millions businesses?

Is success means raising healthy and happy children?

Is success means that you have a successful career?

Or is success means that you are happy with what you are doing and are happy with your life?

In my opinion different people would have different opinion about success.  Some people would consider themselves as successful when they earn millions of dollars or have their own successful businesses.  Some people would consider themselves as successful when their children are happy and successful themselves while others consider themselves as successful when they are able to help as many people as they can.

So you see… Different people have different definition on success and there is no right and wrong answers.

What’s may seems successful to me, may not seem successful to you and vice versa.

However whatever definition and opinion you have about success, one thing that we have in common is that when you and I want to achieve whatever success we want; we need to work for it.

We need to have determination, persistance, believe in ourselves and overcome any challenges and obstacles until we achieve the success that we have been dreaming about.  We need to be focus and not let our eyes off our goals until the day we successfully achieve it.

Therefore no matter whats success means to you, you have to do all you can to achieve that success.

Like what Vince Lombardi said, “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.”

Recently I had the opportunity to attend a seminar in Singapore where I met people from all over the world and most of them are people from all around Asia. 

My new friends from all over the world

These people are successful in their own ways.  Some of them are successful parents, directors, managers, trainers, sales persons, husbands and even wifes.  All of them are working their very best in the things that they believe in and are good at what they are doing.

All of them have a number of things in common:

1.  Believe in themselves.

2. Determination.

3. Persistence.

4. Doing the best that they can.

5. Good heart.

And they all come from different part of this world.

So you see, you can be anywhere in this world but when you want to be successful, you will need to have the same attitude as anyone in any part of the world that already are successful.

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Talk to you soon.

Until then… take care.

Khadijah

How are you?  Hope you are doing well

As for me, I am doing great though a bit exhausted :-0

I will be travelling again next week and this time it will be for a whole (until my birthday, that is )

So I will not be able to talk to you the whole of next week.  I will be back the week after next week.

For those who had been writing to me, I apologize for taking some times to reply your emails.  To those that have not receive my replies, I hope that you will be patient.  I am a bit slow in replying but I will reply, that’s my promise.  Things are a bit hectic around here especially now as I am involve in a commercial job and everything   I guess I have to find a mastermind soon…

Anyway this is not what I want to talk about today.

As promise, today I want to talk about the number two key to successes and riches.

It is Sound Physical Health.

I could hear some of you saying, what!!!  Physical Health???

Does she knows what she is talking about?

To answer that question, yes I do…

Think of it this way, if you have all the riches in this world; all the gold and diamonds and money but you are always sick and have to stay in bed all day and night, would all the riches mean anything to you.  Ok, you might say that you have all the money so you can pay for the best doctor to cure you.  However what if this best doctor does not know what’s wrong with you.  This doctor’s solution is to cut you to see what is wrong inside of you.  Would you want to do that?  Do you want to be reach with scars all over your body?

I don’t think so…

So as you are working towards your successes and riches, you must also work to take care of you health. 

Eat healthy and do exercise.  Take great care of your body.  You only have one body…  No money in this world would be able to make another body for you.

One way to stay healthy is to eat moderately.  Researches had shown that unhealthiness starts from the stomach.  So eat whatever you body needs instead of eating everything your heart desire…

There’s also a saying that say, “Eat when you are hungry and stop before you are full.” 

However most of us keep on eating even after we are full

So take great care of your body so that you are healthy and able to enjoy the successes and reaches that you achieve.

Ok… With that I am going to stop here.

See you again the week after next week.

In the mean time, remember to read my 15 Secrets of Making Money with Positve Personality Revealed

or

Go to my website at http://www.amazingwriting.com to get more information about handwriting analysis.

You can also join me in facebook or twitter.  I will soon include the links here.

So… See you soon.

Stay happy and healthy.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

It had been a hectic weeks for me and I had been running around from one place to another these past few weeks :-0

I believe these will continue for the next few months…  Well, that’s my news

How about you? How is your new year resolution?  Your goals?  Have you started to take actions?  I hope you have.  It is already March, meaning that we are already three months into year 2010.  So if you have not took any actions yet, well now is the time to do it. 

Do not wait any longer!  There’s only 9 and 1/2 months left to complete your 2010 resolution.  Come on!  Get up and start doing something.

Today I want to talk about the key to successes and riches.  Why successful and rich people become successful and rich?  What are the things that these people do that make them successful and rich.

1. A positive mental attitude

Have you ever heard a saying, “Watch your thought, they will become the words you say.  Watch your words, they will become the actions you take.” 

Well, I don’t exactly remember the exact words but more or less these are what the saying means.

Everything that you want to do or not do, everything that you want say or not say begins from your mind. 

When you want to go somewhere for example to the mall or meet somebody, you must have think about it first.
“Oh! I want to buy some new clothes so I have to go to the mall.” Or “I need help so I need to see this and this person.”

Same goes with achieving success.  You must have in your mind about the success you are going to achieve.  You must have the believe of achieving your goals and dreams.  You know that you are going to achieve your goals and dreams then only you will take the actions and make them happen.

If you don’t believe that you are going to successfully achieve your goals or your dreams, would you make any effort and taking actions to achieve them?  I don’t think so…

You may try to do something once but when it doesn’t happen as what you expected, you will stop and let your dream or goal dies.

So from now on start to have positive mental attitude.  If you want to achieve something, start to believe and tell yourself you can achieve it; it may not take one two days but in the end you will achieve your dream.

I also know that it will not be easy to always have positive thoughts.  One way or another negative thoughts will try to creep in.  So from now on if you start having negative thoughts of now able to achieve your goals or just any negative thoughts, say to yourself, “I cancel this negative thought.”  And start smiling (or even force yourself to smile) and say, “I am a positive person. Today is the best day of my life and I am going to achieve my goals.”

Like Napoleon Hill said, “Whatever the mind conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

Ok… That’s it for today.

Stay tune for Key to Successes and Riches no. 2.

By the way have you read my book? 15 Secret of Making Money with Positive Personality Revealed?

Or go to my website at http://www.amazingwriting.com to learn more about handwriting analysis.

Until next post

Smile always.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

My last post was on 8th February 2010 and it had been almost 3 weeks before I got the chance to write something today

I had been travelling these past few weeks and I am going to travel again tomorrow.

I must start to think about having a team as what I discussed before :-0

Well, the truth is I already started to form some kind of mastermind group.  These people are the one promoting my trainings now.  So currently I am leaving to these people to do what they are good at… doing marketing and I doing what I am good at, talking to people, do presentations and inspiring people

So the next thing I need to think about is having a team for my internet marketing…

You see when you surround yourself with experts, people who are good at what they are doing; your life becomes easier and you will start achieving what you want to achieve.

Because nobody is actually good at doing everything themselves.  It’s good to know what you want others to do for you but doing the real job, you got to leave it to the experts.

All successful people had some kind of mastermind group.  It does not have to be a big group; two people can also form a mastermind group.  So it is not that difficult…isn’t it?

So take the actions now!  If you need to form a group to help you be successful then do it, what are you waiting for.  But one thing you must remember is that if you want people to help you be successful, you must also be ready to help these people be successful too.   So that everyone can become successful

So if you want to be successful start taking actions.  Do what you already plan to do; don’t just stop at planning stage ok, keep moving.  There will be a lot of obstacles and challenges of course but never ever give-up.

And remember I am here to help you

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Ok… I think that’s it for today.  I need to pack now.

See you soon

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

Some of them even wanted to give-up or already given up and there are many of them who become discourage.  A lot of them that came to me and said “My dreams are worthless, there is no point to carry on.” or “Life is not fair, why everybody else find an easy way while I have to go through a hard way.”

Well, the truth is achieving dreams is never an easy path.  There will always be obstacles, challenges and roadblocks.  Because if the path you are going through is so easy it may not be a dream that is worth pursuing. 

Why???

Because these obstacles, challenges and roadblocks are the things that make us grow.  These are the things that that teach us about life, teach us to be someone better.  These are the things that remind us of our roots, where we come from when we are at the top.  These are the things that remind us to help others to be at the top with us.  These are the things that give us strengths even when we are already successful because there are always challenges even when we are already at the top.

There is a saying that goes, “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” – Mathama Gandhi.

So to those who came to me and said that they are giving up because they encounter with to many rejections, they are fed-up being rejected,  what I say is, “Reject rejection.”  Think of it this way, there must be a good reason why it happens.  Maybe the boss is not as good as you see him externally, maybe the job is not the best as it seems to be, maybe you are going to create a better product that will make your a millionaire because of these rejections or maybe this is the turning point for you to take better steps. 

And remember this, when the time comes that something that you want, will want you.  So never ever give-up.

Someday you will build success.

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Till next time, take good care of yourself and stay positive.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah