Hi!  How are you today? Hope all of you are doing great

How’s your mother’s day celebration?  Hope that all of you did celebrate you mom’s on Sunday.  Some of you may not have a mom anymore but you can still celebrate mother’s day by reciting prayers for them. That would be one way of celebrating our moms the most beautiful and wonderful creations in this world.

All the men and women in this world would definitely have a mother and most women in this world would have the opportunity to be a mother. 

Today I am not going to talk about all mothers in whole world.  Today I am going to specifically talk about one mother, my mom.

My Mom

One thing about my mom is that she is always concern about her children and her grandchildren.  She always is concern when the grandchildren is not studying, not eating right or even not having enough sleep .  She is the one who would be most worried when the grandchildren are sick.  I think my nieces and nephew are more closer to my mom than their own mother.

Though my mom does not have the highest education or graduated from university, she always emphasize on us the important of education whether it is a formal or informal education.  She always said that there is something that we can learn from the whole situations.  I learnt a lot of things from my mom.  One important thing I learnt and made me the person I am today is the courage to follow my dreams.  When I was down and feeling discouraged, she would always said that this is just a challenge for me to grow, if I let it go now I would never find out who am I and what I am capable of.  When thing happened, it happened for a reason.  It may be due to we did the wrong thing or we are not doing the thing right.  So we must access ourselves and make a step forward.

Wise words from someone who never had a high formal education but a lot of experience in life.

With her way of thinking, I think my mom can effectively lead a company to success.

To me my mom is the most wonderful and the greatest mom in the whole world.  She is also my best friend.  We had gone through the happiest and saddest times together.

The saddest time we experienced together was when my dad passed away in the end of 2010.  I could see the pain in her eyes, departing from the love of her life.  However she is a strong woman, she could still managed things to ensure that the funeral went smoothly.

I think mother’s day should not be celebrated once a year.  It should be celebrated everyday, counting every moment that our mothers took care of us.

There was a saying that said “A mother could take care of 10 of her children, understand each of their behaviours, likes and dislikes.  But 10 children are not able to take care of one mother, to honour her and to love her.”

Happy mother’s day, mom.  You are everything to me

Until next time…

Hope you all are doing great today.

As for me, I am feeling really great

Just celebrated my birthday this month a day to remember.

Received a bouquet of roses too

Roses for my birthday

 Anyway… That is not what I want to talk about today.

Remember in February I wrote a post about Thomas Edison…  Well, I received some comments from a very good friend of mine.

He said that what I wrote there was not me… He said that normally when I wrote something there was an umph, something that felt like it was from me, from my heart, something unique.  But in that post it was like somebody else was writing instead of me…  

And when I read back what I wrote, I realised that he was right.  It was like I was writing for the sake of writing not truly something from my heart.  It was truly not me.  I was trying to copy someone else styles of writing and it didn’t reflect me at all

It made me realised that you can never be somebody else in whatever you do.  Not even in writing.

When you do something it must come fully from your heart, not half-hearted, not quarter hearted.  It must be in full; so that the result will be satisfying to you and everyone else.  Only then it will reflect who you are.

When you do something with your whole heart, you will give your best effort, your best idea, the best of you to make it work.  And when what you are working for works, the satisfaction can never be described. 

Even if it doesn’t work, you will still feel satisfy as you already put your very best in it.  There would not be any “If only I do this better”, “If only I think of this differently”, “If only this and that…..”  There will be no if only…  You will only think, “Ok… I have done my best but it doesn’t work so I better take the next step.” 

No brooding, no thinking of what if….   Because if you carry on to brood, you would never achieve anything and it is also not very good for your heart.

Talking about the heart do you know that helping others is good for your heart physically and spiritually .  I can guarantee that when you help others, do something for others, the feeling of satisfaction can never be replace by anything else.  But wanting to help others must come from the heart; remember that you want to help others because you want to help them not because you want to get praises or something in return or rewards or seeing your face in the newspapers. 

You want to help others because you want to see them develop and become a better people, you want to see the smiles in their faces and you want to see them helping others in return.  If that what you have in mind then helping others will actual helps you instead.  It will help you to become a better person instead and it would be better for your heart too because you are feeling happy and satisfy. 

So you see helping others will help you as a whole, making you a better person physically, mentally and physically

Therefore whatever you want to do, do it from your heart.  The result will be able to warm your heart, make you satisfy and it would also be your great gift to others.

And I would also like to thank my friend for making me realise that.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

See you all next time.

Take care…

In my opinion, this is really true.  In my opinion life is not always full of rainbows. sunshine, colours and musics.  Most of the times it is also fills with rain, thunderstorm, black and white and even sutnami

Well, the truth is that all the roadblocks, hurdles and challenges are how we can grow.  Because all the challenges, roadblocks and hurdles are truthfully our opportunities to learn and grow.  It is the opportunity to become what we want to be.  If everything is so great in our life then we will never learn, never able to grow and most probably forget our roots, where we came from.

Let me share with you a story about  a little boy who overcome all the challenges, hurdles and roadblocks and became a great man.  At the age of 7, his teacher always pointed out about his unusually broad forehead and saying that his head was considerably larger than average.  His teacher believed that this hyperactive youngster had a brain that was “addled” or scrambled.

He also had a poor hearing and because of the negative treatments he received from his teacher, his mother who believed that her son was intelligent withdrew him from school.  Due to this he only had 3 months of formal education.

However he loved reading and he loved asking questions.  He was exposed to history and english literature and was very interested in Shakespear’s plays that he briefly considered himself to become an actor.  However because of his high-pitched voice and extreme shyness in front of audiences he soon gave up his idea.

His parents especially his mother believed in his ability when nobody else did.  They introduced him to the use of library to appease his voracious appetite to knowledge.  He became interested in Science and very into Newton’s theory.

As he grew up, he developed a strong sense of perseverance, readily expending whatever amount of perspiration needed to overcome challenges. 

He was once being struck by a train conductor due to an accident that caused a baggage car to catch a fire.  This may had add to the hearing loss that he already inherited and from later from a scarlet fever.  By the time he was 14 years old, it  was  virtually impossible for him to acquire knowledge in a typical educational setting. Amazingly,  however, he never seemed to fret a whole lot over the matter. Naturally inclined towards accepting his fate in life – and promptly  adapting to whatever he was convinced was out of his control -he always reacted by committing  himself to compensating via  alternative methods….

ltimately, he  became totally deaf in his left ear, and approximately 80% deaf in his right ear.

To make his story short, he encountered a lot of disappointments, rejections and failures, challenges and roadblocks.  He even been in deeply debt and almost being fired from his job.

But he never gave up.  He was Thomas Edison who invented the first commercially practical incandescent electric light bulb.

You can read more about him in his biography and books about his life and inventions.

What I am trying to say and even to remind myself is that to become successful is not easy.  Challenges, roadblocks and hurdles are part of life and makes path towards success much interesting

They are there to make sure that we never forget our roots when we are at the top.

Hope to see you soon, till next time

Take care.  

Some of them asked me why?, there were also those who said that I was daring enough to venture into an unknown horizon; a 180 degree different from my trained profession and there were also people who bluntly said I was not thinking straight, it was a waste of time.

There were times after that especially during difficult times that I too wondered whether what they said was true and whether I had made the right decision.

Until today, there are still people who are trying to talk me out of pursing my dream and even said that my dream is a worthless dream.  They said that my dream is not going to bring a lot of money or my dream is not going to make me a happy person or my dream is not going anywhere or what I am doing is not the best for me and they actually know what best for me :-(

Well, I called these people a dream killer.  They don’t actually know what they are talking about or they are a failure because they may once had a dream before and on their first or second attempts failed and after that they never tried again.  And the worst this is that they believe that if they failed in their first and second attempts, everybody else who has dreams will fail too.  What make things worst are that they suddenly thought that they are the expert on dreams and they know what best for everybody else.

My advice to you is that just ignore what they said and even better try to spend time or associate with them less.  Because if keeping spending your time with them, one day you may start to believe what they said, begin to think that your dream is a worthless dream and forget about it.

You see, the person who knows you best, the person who knows your capabilities and the person who knows what best for you beside Allah, is yourself.  Some people who are very close to you like your parents may understand your capabilities by the only person who knows you best is yourself

And if you believe that you can achieve your dream, you will be able to achieve it.  Of course it would be best to have the people around you especially your love ones to believe in your dream too.  It will help a lot and make things easier for you.

I am not saying that when you have a dream, you believe it and it would come easily to you.  I am saying that if you believe in yourself and your love ones; people around you believe it too, things would be easier.

Because when you have a dream, a goal; there is no straight road to achieve it.  There will always be roadblocks, challenges, detour, hurdles, many disappointments and failures before you can be successfully achieve your dream.  This is where the believes and supports of your love ones are very important.  These believes and supports can keep you moving and help you up when you fall.

However the believes and supports of your love ones would not be enough unless you believe in yourself and take actions to move towards your dream.

That’s why one of my favourite quotes is by Napoleon Hill “Whatever the mind conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

I admit that sometimes your dream and what you believe in may not be the best for you but if you never try, take action to achieve it; you will never know whether it is the best for you or not.  In the end if you never try, you will never know and keep wondering whether your dream is what best for you.  Like Publilius Syrus said, “No one knows what he can do until he tries.”

So if someone comes to you and said that your dream is worthless and they know what best for you, assess their statement, weigh what they said, take the good advises and throw away the rest and move on because in the end it is your life, you are the one who knows what best for you.

Look at history for example Alexandra Graham Bell, Thomas Edison or even Albert Eistein; no one believed them and some may think that they were wasting their time.  However because of their believe in their dreams, their persistence and determination and also the actions that they had taken, they changed the world. 

So believe in your dreams, be what you want to be not what others what you to be; things that will give you energy to move forward and you will be a happy person until the end of your life. 

Logan Pearsall Smith said, “There are two things to aim in life: first, to get what you want and after that to enjoy it.”

See you next time

I think it is still not too late to wish all of my friends a very happy new year though today is already day 10th of 2012 . 

I miss writing here and miss talking to all my friends, that’s you if you have forgotten that

I have been away from my desk for two months.  Some of you may know that I went to Mekah since October 2011.  Came back earlier December and only now manage to write.  My mistake…  Been in my comfort zone for too long :-( that I forgot that I am a writer and writing gives me energy to look forward to life.

I would like to share with you my experience and stories while I was in Mekah and Madinah but that would be in my next posts.  I promise .  There’s so much that I would like to share, especially my experience that can make us a better person and I hope that by sharing my experience with you, makes me a better person even more.

Today I am not going to talk about Mekah or Madinah.  I want to talk about well, what else… new resolution as now is just the beginning of 2012

Well, you might be saying that this is going to be something boring as everybody is talking about new resolution everytimes new year comes. Yes, I agreed to that and yes everybody is talking about new resolution nowadays.  Actually I did talked about new resolution last year

So without breaking the tradition, I am going to talk about new resolution again…

I believe that our resolution should be renewed; not every early of the year but early of each day.  I hope you don’t misunderstood my words, therefore I am going to say this again; “Resolution should be renewed everyday not every early of the year.”

Why? You might ask.

Well, the way I see it, we should review our resolution at the end of every day i.e. before we go to sleep so that we can see whether what we have done that day aligned with our resolution or not and whether our resolution is really what we want, the thing that is going to make us happy in the end.

By reviewing this everyday we will always know whether we are in the right direction or not and whether we are making the right resolution to move towards our goal. 

It is something like a pilot who is flying the airplane, always checking whether he is in the right direction towards his destination.  If he is diverted from his destination, he will correct his way and fly back to the right direction.  And if he arrive in a wrong destination, he can always turn back and fly towards the right destination.  Provided of course the plane has enough fuel to fly there

Well, you got the picture.

Same with us, if we always check our actions, we will always know whether what we do are align with our resolution and whether our resolution is making us move towards our goal, our destination.  And when suddenly we realize our resolution is a wrong one, we can make an immediate change to achieve our goal and have a happy life.

You see, things that makes us happy are the things that make us move forward.  If we are not happy with what we are doing, we will remain static, be in just the same place or even worst move backward.

I learned this the hard way.  I did something that I thought would bring me closer to my goal but truthfully it did not as I didn’t checked.   And I wasted the whole year doing just that.  In the end I realized that I was not moving forward at all instead moving much further away from my goal and suffered for the whole year not being happy. 

Luckily someone made me realized what I did.  Though it was painful to swallow but it was the truth.  Hey! I am a human being, I make mistakes too.  Like the saying “If you never make mistake, you will never grow.”

So my friends, I hope that I have share something valuable with you today and it will make you a better person today.  If you make the wrong resolution last year, well you still have time to change it.  It is never too late to make the change.  As long as you are breathing, it is not too late no matter how old your are.

If you make a mistake, be sad, cry if you want to but after that review it and make improvement.  Like a good friend of mine said don’t brood over it. 

Remember this; everything happens for a reason, whether the thing that happens is good or bad.  What happens next is much more important; it will depend on how we handle the situation.

Just to share with you, something bad happened to me today, I admit I brood about it at first but in the end I realize in a way it is a good thing.  As it gave me the will to write tonight and realize the right direction to move.  So it is not a bad thing after all

I am signing off with this prayer, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

See you next time soon.

Take care

All through my life, I have been doing things in this sequence. 

Well, let’s not talk to far into my childhood because that might bores you.  Let’s just talk about the things that I did from few years back…

When I first got inspired on writing a book, I just said to myself, “Hey! I want to write a book.  I got the data and information that I think is very valuable and I want to share it with others.”  So I started writing.  At that time, all I could think about was putting my book on the shelf of a bookstore.  Thinking back on that, I should have been thinking “Hey! I want to write a best selling book.”  Anyway, I have no regrets because my first book opens up a lot of new opportunities that I never thought of doing before.

Ok… Back to my story… When I finished writing my book, only then I thought of how to get my book printed and out on the bookshelf.  So I thought of finding a publisher.  It was not an easy thing to do.  It took a lot of determination and persistence from a person who didn’t have a slightest idea about publishing.  I had been rejected by so many publisher that in the end I almost got discourage.  During this time I took things one step at a time.  What I did was, I kept telling myself, “One more publisher today.  If I didn’t get this one, I’ll stop.”  But alhamdulillah, I never stopped. Until finally on on fine morning I got a reply from the publisher.

And that was the beginning of my first book, ”Tulisan Cerminan Personaliti Diri”

My First book

It may not be a world best selling book yet but I am very proud of it.  My first attempt I am still learning from this experience and I realise that I could do better.  And I am in the midst of writing a new book much better than this

Like I said earlier, by writing this book, it opens up a lot of new opportunities for me.  Before this I never thought of becoming a coach that shares information with other people through seminars, programs and talks.  I was actually terrified of talking in front of people especially big groups of people

However I learned and still am learning.  And now I am doing things that I never thought I would love.  One of it is sharing knowledge and value add to others through my programs, seminars and talks

Knowledge Sharing with Master Students in UiTM

Now I just love doing this knowledge sharing events

Though I have to admit I still have stage frights at the beginning of each programs but in the end these are the things that give me energy and drive to move forward.

Finally, I found the reason why to I was put on this earth; to share information and value add to others.

I still have a lot of things to share about Ready, Fire, Aims but I think we will continue that in my next post.

But one thing you have to remember, if you know you are doing the right thing then just do it.  A lot of people know that they are ready but keep aiming to ensure that they get the right target and in the end they never actually fire.  If you never fire you will never know whether your target is right or not and you will never have a chance to correct your aim.

See you next time.

Take care.

Khadijah

As you all may have notice, I have not written in my blog for almost 6 months… A lot of people kept asking me the reason why?  Whether I am alright? Whether I have changed my blog? Or whether I am not writing anymore.

The truth is, it is none of the above.  What’s really happened was that I just lost my dad in early December 2010.  Before that he had been very ill so I decided to put everything on hold so that I could help my mom and sister took care of him.  It had been the hardest time of our life but we were grateful for it as we were able to be with him in the last moments of his life.

Although he had passed away 3 months ago, I am still not able to talk about him without crying.  Although he had been sick for quite some times and we had long expected for the worst, but when it happened; it was still a shock to us.

There are a lot of things that I will never get a chance to say to my dad or even show to him but I am taking this opportunity to write something about his as a tribute to him and of the happy memories that he left us.

One thing that I learned from my dad is persistency.  When my dad set his mind to do something or to achieve something, he did the best that he could to achieve it.  He would not stop until he got what he wanted even if he had to stay awake all night long.  

But the best thing that I had ever learned and received from my dad was becoming the kind of person I am today…  He taught me to always improved myself and do everything the best that I can and leave everything else to Allah. 

When I was a kid, I always cried when I did not achieved what I wanted or focused on.  When that happened, my dad always said this, “I know that you already work very hard and you have done your very best.  Maybe if you do something different, you will get what you want or you will get what you want when the time is right.  Whatever the situation is, always remember this… Everything happens for a reason and only Allah know what’s best for you.  You may not achieve what you want today but always look back and see what you have become in achieving what you want.  You may not get what you want today but if you are grateful and work better, you will achieve better things that you have never dream of achieving before.”

Thank you dad for all those years and helping me become who I am today.

Till next time.

See you…

How many books you read in a day? In a week? In a month? In a year?

Do you remember the book or books that inspire you?

Do you remember the book that start to make you re-think about your purpose in life and change your life forever? 

I still remember mine…

Since I was little I liked to read books.  I used to read mystery books, horror books, romance novels and lots of other books.  But I never really read any inspiring or motivational books.

I never really remember how it began but I will always remember the day I picked up the book that give me the inspiration, re-think about my life, realized my true purpose and change my life forever; a 180 degree change. 

And since then, there are always books that inspire and motivate me to move forward in life. 

Sometimes… When I feel down, discourage and de-motivate; I can just pick a book and there are always inspiring words or advises that encourage and motivate me to move forward and face the challenge.  It is like a coach or a mentor advising me what to do.

Weird isn’t it…  But it is a good weird

You see, when you want to be successful in whatever you do, you need to learn.

Learn from everything.  Learn from your own life experience, other people life experience such even from your parents, read books, attend trainings, find coaches or mentors and even observe everything around you. 

There will always things that can help you become a better person

Just open your mind and always be ready to learn. 

For some people when something bad happened to them, they just shut their eyes and miss the valuable lesson.  But not you because you know that most of the time challenges and failures are the most valuable things that teach you valuable lessons and bring you a step closer towards your dreams.

Remember this, there will always be lessons in everything that happens to you whether it is good or bad.  The important thing is that how you look at these lessons and how you use it.

If you think that life experiences and reading good books are not enough to help you achieve your dreams then find a coach or a mentor.    

Me and my coach

Coaches and mentors can also be your eyes opener and help you achieve your dreams.

But the most important thing of all, YOU must take the action.

Ok… See you next time.

Talk to you soon

How are you?  Hope you are doing well

As for me, I am doing great though a bit exhausted :-0

I will be travelling again next week and this time it will be for a whole (until my birthday, that is )

So I will not be able to talk to you the whole of next week.  I will be back the week after next week.

For those who had been writing to me, I apologize for taking some times to reply your emails.  To those that have not receive my replies, I hope that you will be patient.  I am a bit slow in replying but I will reply, that’s my promise.  Things are a bit hectic around here especially now as I am involve in a commercial job and everything   I guess I have to find a mastermind soon…

Anyway this is not what I want to talk about today.

As promise, today I want to talk about the number two key to successes and riches.

It is Sound Physical Health.

I could hear some of you saying, what!!!  Physical Health???

Does she knows what she is talking about?

To answer that question, yes I do…

Think of it this way, if you have all the riches in this world; all the gold and diamonds and money but you are always sick and have to stay in bed all day and night, would all the riches mean anything to you.  Ok, you might say that you have all the money so you can pay for the best doctor to cure you.  However what if this best doctor does not know what’s wrong with you.  This doctor’s solution is to cut you to see what is wrong inside of you.  Would you want to do that?  Do you want to be reach with scars all over your body?

I don’t think so…

So as you are working towards your successes and riches, you must also work to take care of you health. 

Eat healthy and do exercise.  Take great care of your body.  You only have one body…  No money in this world would be able to make another body for you.

One way to stay healthy is to eat moderately.  Researches had shown that unhealthiness starts from the stomach.  So eat whatever you body needs instead of eating everything your heart desire…

There’s also a saying that say, “Eat when you are hungry and stop before you are full.” 

However most of us keep on eating even after we are full

So take great care of your body so that you are healthy and able to enjoy the successes and reaches that you achieve.

Ok… With that I am going to stop here.

See you again the week after next week.

In the mean time, remember to read my 15 Secrets of Making Money with Positve Personality Revealed

or

Go to my website at http://www.amazingwriting.com to get more information about handwriting analysis.

You can also join me in facebook or twitter.  I will soon include the links here.

So… See you soon.

Stay happy and healthy.

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah

How are you doing?  Hope you are doing fine.

As promise this is my final post…   :-0

Well… My final post for 2009.

Gotcha there!

Ha… Ha… Ha…

Anyway, hope all your dreams and goals that you set on the New Year Eve of 2009 have come true. 

If you have not achieve all yet, well put them into your 2010 resolutions and take actions (more actions than in 2009) to achieve them.  I know that’s what I am going.

However if you have not taken any action to make your resolutions or dreams or goals happened … Well, you should be ashame of yourself!  Wake up! It is almost the end of 2009 and 2010 is coming!

Unfortunately the past is in the past.  There’s nothing you can do about it. 

What you can do now is renew those 2009′s resolutions and make sure you take actions in 2010.  And the first thing that you need to do is change your habits, habits that lead you to where you are now.

You should go to my website at http://www.amazingwriting.com and read my e-report “Habits that cause you to fail” and follow what suggested to be done.  If you have any enquiry, anything at all; please let me know.

Or you should read my “15 Secrets of Making Money with Personality Revealed” that will show you how to identify the negative habits in you and turn them into positve and successful habits.

For those who achieved all your 2009′s resolutions, congratulation! 

Start making new goals or resolutions or targets for 2010.  Why because that is how we become better person and to make sure that we are always in the momentum to be successful.  When you already achieve your goals make new ones

As for me, I achieve some of my goals while others take longer time to achieve than I had anticipated.  However I am not worried, I am optimistic about 2010

Of course there are also frustrations and disappointments in 2009 however I am considering these as learning curve that guide me to become a better person.  Because sometimes the things that we really want may not be something that is good for us.  So always be grateful and take better actions next time.

2009 has been a learning curve for me too.  I got to know and became the student of John Thornhill, get to know Daniel, Steve from invinity, Kevin, Carol, PJ, Mark, becomes the student of Russell Brunson and many more internet marketers that I don’t manage to mention them here (too long list ) and also people from the ministries and many more. 

I get to know about twitter (remember to follow me at twitter) and also got to learn about body language from an ex FBI agent… How cool is that!

I think next year I will talk about body language too.  So stay tune

But best of all, I get to know you, share with you my experience along 2009 and the knowledge that I had learned.

Thank you for being a good listener and friend.  Thank you for all your comments.

I hope these will continue in 2010 and beyond

Good bye 2009 and welcome 2010….

I pray that 2010 will bring prosperity to all of us.

See you in 2010!

Your partner towards your success,

Khadijah